<![CDATA[The Power Of Money - POM-Blog]]>Tue, 13 Sep 2016 15:09:53 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[Finding The Path to The Golden Door to Dreams]]>Mon, 23 Feb 2015 11:31:45 GMThttp://powerofmoneybook.com/pom-blog/finding-the-path-to-the-golden-door-to-dreamsFinding bliss. What does that mean? I have friends whose children in their late teens and early twenties struggle to find a place in the world where they fit. These young people have been told to go after a career. Find a company that will become their support system providing the pension at the end of a long internship. But they are finding that the careers of their parents no longer exist. The story of remaining in a parental organization who will take care of them for all their work years is now fable. Companies are struggling to figure out how to maintain their foothold in the landscape of a changing commercial world. Survival requires an unshakable almost foolish belief in a dream. A dream that will keep us afloat through life's shifting tides of change, with an ability to shift with the tides.


I have done the same thing for over seventeen years. I guess one may say that I have a career. In my life I have taken two careers, with short jobs along the way. I worked at being a waitress, once. It didn't last long, because I would tell the secrets of the kitchen. I shared with the diners which dishes to choose and which were being sold as fresh, but were days old. I would not eat it so, I didn't think anyone I was serving should. That job did not last long. My first job at seventeen, was at Burger King. After school, I would get my homework done, then hit the subway for Manhattan. The process of getting a job in New York City, was strange to me, because I had only just emigrated to New York the previous year. In Jamaica, I would have been put to study for hours on end in order to get one of the limited spaces in university.


I was not aware that New York was supposed to be a scary place. I did not think twice about getting on the subway at three in the morning from work, to go back home to Brooklyn. It was only after I had left the Burger King job that I came to realize that I might have been in danger. I thought I was invincible. I thought the world was a safe place, so I never thought of danger. Throughout my early working years, I stuffing envelopes in an office, and took a job as a care minder to an autistic child which I did not stay in for very long. The mother wanted me to feed what I thought was unpalatable dishes to her daughter. I did not understand browned mashed ripe bananas or apples, because in Jamaica, browned fruit was bad. I did not understand being asked to serve meat that smelled as if it was going off. I was not allowed to change the food, so out of sympathy, I quit the job. It never occurred to me that the job of child minding usually fell upon immigrant women.


I finally landed a job at the Department Of Sanitation, NYC. I was a clerk in the contracts and procurement department and got promoted to assistant supervisor in the payroll department, where I got up at four in the morning, to catch the subway to get to work for seven o'clock and worked until three o'clock.  I attended Pace University, majoring in Fine Arts, then transferred to FIT. I was pretty naive then. In many ways I think I still am. But I worked full time and attended school full time. That was the only way I knew to pay my way through school without getting a student loan. Of course, school ended quite late and I would be on the subway, home by nine o'clock, to homework, sleep and start the journey all over again. 


During my years in New York, at sixteen, I had no clue what I was doing. All I knew was that I was getting a career, like everyone else. I knew what I wanted and would spend my time dreaming of the life I would have. I dreamed about having two children. I thought about how I would become an actress at first, then later, a great fashion designer. Nowhere in there did I see love and marriage. I was sure that I could take on the world and a career singlehandedly. Although I did not think I was working hard, I worked hard for my dreams. I believed that I would accomplish my vision. I was in high school where I saw the possibility of a life I could have and being in New York, I realized that I could create the dreams portrayed in the movies and the books I read as a child, in Jamaica. Failure was not my reality. Somehow I was blind to the fears and worries of my contemporaries both in high school and in university. I knew that as long as I could work and dream I would accomplish what I wanted.


Finding the sweet spot in life for me was like The Fool, depicted in the Tarot. The fool starts on a journey, holding a rose to his nose, his belongings tied up in a kerchief, on a pole and his faithful dog by his side. He is oblivious to the danger of the precipice before him. I wandered through the world like The Fool, taking on challenges that came my way. I have a dream. I have accomplished much. I have the two children I dreamed of. This came with two marriages and divorces, however. But marriage was not a part of the equation. I have no ambitions to be a millionaire, my ambition is and have always been to work to find a home that becomes a sanctuary for my many interests and for those who end up at the door seeking refuge for a time. This requires money, which I have worked hard for. I have followed a road that I actually see before me. That leads to the golden door of my dream home. 


Finding your dream means you have to have a dream. One cannot search for something that one is not aware of. I did not have a dallying moment where I was unsure of what I wanted. For a young person who is struggling to find something to hold on to, the woman just starting over, I suggest finding a dream. A home, travel, whatever it is, find the dream that fills you with longing and then go after it. ]]>
<![CDATA[Valuing Yourself During Financial Downtimes]]>Mon, 05 May 2014 17:41:17 GMThttp://powerofmoneybook.com/pom-blog/valuing-yourself-during-financial-downtimesIt’s scary to hear about all the layoffs and job shortages in the news. Most young people are being urged by their parents to follow in their footsteps and go after the jobs that will gift them with a pension, longevity and security. Based on what is evident out there, the days of such nurvanic events are over. Gone are the days of waiting for “the man” to take care of us. The only longevity that is assured is the one we make for ourselves because government and private sector companies are downsizing in order to survive. Their employees are left wondering how to make up for the financial shortfall. Most people in these categories have children and families to support. 

With so much uncertainty, I wonder what the future holds for us. Will we choose to have fewer children based on our financial health? Will we move back to the rural areas and become hobby farmers because housing prices are better? It seems like we are being forced to look back at the example of good old days and assess our current lifestyles in order to survive. Finding a little piece of paradise in the country that is a fraction of the cost of city living is not so bad, is it? Some of us do need the piece and quiet. Growing our own eggs and tomatoes leaves us with a true idea of what is in our food. Maybe we will see hubby farms spring up all over the place in the next five to ten years. 

Growing beyond the emptiness born from the uncertainty in which we find ourselves is challenging. But we can shift by making changes in our psyches and our expectations.

Shifting our financial expectations on to ourselves is important. For example: instead of seeing the person who writes the pay check as our boss, we should see ourselves as our boss. We are our own CEO’s of our lives, we are in fact working for ourselves. We need to value our service, our minds, our capacity for compassion, and our muscle power. See that what comes from us is of value and is important. I remember years ago, I kept asking myself why people valued their money more than they valued my time. I had a client who refused to pay the taxes that I was obliged to collect. Another who payed me by throwing a cheque for ten dollars at me when it was time for him to pay for the service I provided while at the same time expressing how much he had been helped by what I did. I thought I valued myself and the service I provided. But these individuals were showing me that my valuation of myself was not as strong as I consciously thought.

I fixed this by reminding the client who had an issue with paying the taxes before the appointment began, that the tax was due with the payment. The client who threw his cheques at me, I returned it to him after a meditation class and asked him to hand the cheque to me. He was able to see how he was about money and she also saw her patterns. What is unique about this valuation system is that what goes around does come around. Both of these individuals view themselves as successful, but in their unconscious they did not value themselves which they were reflecting in the way they handled paying me. I saw that I was not truly valuing myself because they were treating me with such disrespectful.

Valuing ourselves at all times and especially during financial downtimes is vital to our survival and the financial health of the planet. Our bosses and anyone we deal with from a financial basis will reflect to us our own valuation of ourselves around money. Most times when we think we fully understand, there is a sneaky little struggle thrown in by shadow self, that shows us what we need to see hidden deep within us. As we go out to find our financial footing in the world, allow personal value to become a vital part of our survival. It will help us if we choose to strike out on our own. And, if we continue to work for “the man” we will recognize our own value and see our employer as a client.


Sonia Nadina Haynes is author of  the life changing book, THE POWER OF MONEY, How You See Money Is How You See Yourself, available on Balboa Press, Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Barnes and Noble, Chapters and Indigo and ask for it at your local book store.



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<![CDATA[Breaking Down The Barrier To Your Dreams by Sonia Nadina Haynes]]>Mon, 17 Mar 2014 11:42:26 GMThttp://powerofmoneybook.com/pom-blog/breaking-down-the-barrier-to-your-dreams-by-sonia-nadina-haynes For most of us financial security is as elusive as catching a rainbow. We see our dreams, it seems in our grasp but the closer we get to it, the more elusive and distant it becomes. Everyone wants financial security and abundance. We invest in the stock markets, purchase lottery tickets and some of us even gamble our talents in the hopes of achieving financial security, but we block our financial security through limiting thinking. Most of us on the planet, from all walks of life are directly descended from World Wars, the great depression, stock market collapses and global uncertainty. Limitation and lack are part of the human experience.  The Universe is abundant and boundless while it’s opposite, earth is limited. Mankind is learning how to bring the infinity of the universe on to the earth and live in the glory of abundance from a higher state of consciousness. Highly evolved beings know how to create abundance in place of limitation. They know how to enjoy in the physical world, utilizing the abundance of the universe.

There are six billion beautiful, creative people on this planet, most living in poverty each dreaming of having his or her basic needs of proper housing, food to eat, along with feeling a sense of safety. Creating abundance is a challenge in a world that constantly teaches us that life is hard. But there is a way to overcome these challenges using simple steps to creating abundance and access your dreams. First, it is necessary to have a dream. Find the ultimate dream – dream big. Do you want financial freedom? What does financial freedom look like to you? Visualize your dream. See it in your mind. Taste it. If you have to take yourself on a visualization journey, do it. The ability to visualize is an important aspect of creation and speak your dream out loud, even if it is just to yourself. Be brave enough to talk about your dreams out loud.

(In all spells, it is the expression of the idea (incantation) that gives it power and life.)

Know that you deserve to have your dreams. Love yourself enough to receive what is given to you by the universe. Acknowledge that the universe is abundant; you came from the universe, therefore you are abundant.  Remember: Unconditional loving is unconditional giving, which is unconditional receiving. For one day, practice receiving gracefully. The universe gives in its own way. We need to step out of the way and allow the free flow of abundance. Now, be willing to work for your dreams. Work by recognizing the shadow issues that block you from achieving your dreams. Words such as “I don’t need much, I could not possible accept so much, I do not deserve this, Why me?”

These statements hidden deep within our subconscious show up when we are at the place of stepping out of limitation. They are the sentinels blocking the door to achieving our dreams. They are the dark aspects that keep us in fear of poverty by keeping us in limiting thinking. The key to passing these dark aspects (sentinels) is to keep our dream burning brightly, practice persistence and acknowledge that we, are infinite and abundant beings, therefore we are abundant. The future of humanity is a state of self-empowerment, which comes from self-awareness. A feeling of being in touch with the infinite at all times because we live in abundance, which equals freedom. The freedom to become whomever we choose and to support each other in more positive ways, fostering self awareness, not just for ourselves but for everyone on the planet. Remember always give a hand up through example not just a hand out.


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<![CDATA[Excerpt from the book]]>Mon, 17 Mar 2014 11:29:48 GMThttp://powerofmoneybook.com/pom-blog/excerpt-from-the-bookFree excerpt from THE POWER OF MONEY,  How You See Money Is How You See Yourself  book:  Chapter 6, page 33

To change the outcome of our life and fortune, it is necessary to change our mindset. Think about yourself first. Because we come from good intention, you will automatically share. It is necessary to put ourselves where our sharing is freely given not driven from a sense of responsibility or guilt. First, ask yourself, "What things in my life bring me joy?" If the answer is "I don't know", you must look back upon your childhood. When you were a child, there was a dream, a deep desire that obsessed you. Most people when asked, "what do you want?" usually reply, "I don't know". I have encountered these people through much of my career. These are the people who cannot understand why life is not going the way that they want. They make their list of desires, make their affirmations but, because they are not clear about what they want, they receive what they want but sometimes it appears skewed. They think the things they ask for come with negative baggage.

Defining the path of your dream is like following the train track. Once you get started, and you ask the right questions, the path will take you where you want to go.

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