With so much uncertainty, I wonder what the future holds for us. Will we choose to have fewer children based on our financial health? Will we move back to the rural areas and become hobby farmers because housing prices are better? It seems like we are being forced to look back at the example of good old days and assess our current lifestyles in order to survive. Finding a little piece of paradise in the country that is a fraction of the cost of city living is not so bad, is it? Some of us do need the piece and quiet. Growing our own eggs and tomatoes leaves us with a true idea of what is in our food. Maybe we will see hubby farms spring up all over the place in the next five to ten years.
Growing beyond the emptiness born from the uncertainty in which we find ourselves is challenging. But we can shift by making changes in our psyches and our expectations.
Shifting our financial expectations on to ourselves is important. For example: instead of seeing the person who writes the pay check as our boss, we should see ourselves as our boss. We are our own CEO’s of our lives, we are in fact working for ourselves. We need to value our service, our minds, our capacity for compassion, and our muscle power. See that what comes from us is of value and is important. I remember years ago, I kept asking myself why people valued their money more than they valued my time. I had a client who refused to pay the taxes that I was obliged to collect. Another who payed me by throwing a cheque for ten dollars at me when it was time for him to pay for the service I provided while at the same time expressing how much he had been helped by what I did. I thought I valued myself and the service I provided. But these individuals were showing me that my valuation of myself was not as strong as I consciously thought.
I fixed this by reminding the client who had an issue with paying the taxes before the appointment began, that the tax was due with the payment. The client who threw his cheques at me, I returned it to him after a meditation class and asked him to hand the cheque to me. He was able to see how he was about money and she also saw her patterns. What is unique about this valuation system is that what goes around does come around. Both of these individuals view themselves as successful, but in their unconscious they did not value themselves which they were reflecting in the way they handled paying me. I saw that I was not truly valuing myself because they were treating me with such disrespectful.
Valuing ourselves at all times and especially during financial downtimes is vital to our survival and the financial health of the planet. Our bosses and anyone we deal with from a financial basis will reflect to us our own valuation of ourselves around money. Most times when we think we fully understand, there is a sneaky little struggle thrown in by shadow self, that shows us what we need to see hidden deep within us. As we go out to find our financial footing in the world, allow personal value to become a vital part of our survival. It will help us if we choose to strike out on our own. And, if we continue to work for “the man” we will recognize our own value and see our employer as a client.
Sonia Nadina Haynes is author of the life changing book, THE POWER OF MONEY, How You See Money Is How You See Yourself, available on Balboa Press, Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Barnes and Noble, Chapters and Indigo and ask for it at your local book store.